How many dates do people nowadays wait to have sex when first dating?

I would say what is typical is within three dates. How long do people nowadays wait to have sex when first dating? When should you invite a guy over for the first time? How long should you wait before having sex for the first time? I would say within a month or six dates. We're in our late 30's. Thx.

Well it depends on the quality of the dates. If you connected and had deep conversation within three dates then that's fine. If you go on ten dates and never had any real connection or spark, then why would you get in bed. Its really case-by-case basis. Another thing, at the age of 30s, usually its fewer dates especially if you hit it off from the start. The first date is never advisable because it might give the impression that that's what you're in for or that you sleep around too.

Having sex too early and then having a serious relationship should not affect the relationship. If both parties are serious about each other, time is not a factor, just feelings.

When your married!

I usually have sex on the first date, maybe that's just me.

This reminds me of Charlotte off "Sex and the City". Always looking for the perfect answer regarding dating, relationships, or sex. The thing is, I don't think there is any cut and dry answer to any of these questions.

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Maybe you should wait until you know the person that includes sexual history ..nowadays I say what until he or she gets tested with you!

The rule of thumb according to PUA's is 7 hours accumulative time before sex. I can say from experience its a good rule of thumb.

my boyfriend pushed the subject on me the first couple of months after our 1st date but ,naww stick to having your v-card till marriage girl.(;
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I think it honestly depends on the people. Some people could base their relationship on that kinda stuff and might not care about doing it.

2-3 months

well when ever the mood takes me lol but i think its up to the individual

I usually have sex within the first 2 weeks; but I have noticed many women want it earlier.

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When Should I Tell A Guy That I'm Waiting Until I'm Marriage To Have Sex?

I'm an 18 year old virgin and I want to wait until I'm married to have sex.When should I tell a guy that I plan on staying a virgin until I'm married?On the first date?When it becomes a serious relationship?When I feel comfortable around him?

If you have to tell him on the first date.....he's definitely the wrong guy.

The subject shouldn't even come up until your well into the dating / commitment/ marriage phase of the relationship.

You can start with "I am not ready to have sex."

That's a clear boundary, and a guy that truly cares for you will respect it.

Eventually, the subject will likely come up, let him bring it up.....after you've told him you're not ready for sex right now.



Luck

whens hes trying to have sex with you. Tell him that your sorry but plz respect my morals

When he tries to put the moves on you.

when he asks whether you want to have sex

Just before it becomes serious.

go to church to find a person willing to wait for marriage or a close friend

just say it when he is pushing you to have sex

When he tries to get in to your pants you can tell him. If it pisses him off, then he's an @sshole anyway.

Tell him on ur next date.

Tell him when you feel comfortable.

hint at it straight away to let the guy know to get out of there!

it's just unfair otherwize

serious relationship. you tell him on the first date and it'll be awkward

When he asks you for sex. Then tell him.

If the topic ever comes up, just mention it casually.
Oh, and, Good for you!

I think you should tell him when the relationship begins to become physical.

wen u r comfortable around him..

When you feel comfortable around him.

When he talks about sex tell him that

Yeah, tell him that before start dating.

You should tell him ASAP!!! If he truly liked you he should understand!

Who cares? Just tell him right away. Or wait? That's not a big deal. A real man wouldn't care.

Before you even go out on your first date, let him know where you stand, so that he doesn't waste his time. We hate being led on...and we love the pink squishmuffin!

yea

I would expect to be told on the first date. Therefore I don't waste my time and money in the future, trying to get into your pants.

You should tell him when you feel comfortable enough to tell him.

all - of - the - time

wait until it becomes serious. if u tell him on the first date ur probably going to embarass him =/ tell him when its appropriate to do so

at the beginning b/c that will show how much he really cares for you

on the First date

Two things. Firstly, I support your decision to wait. There is simply not enough girls out there with a head like yours. Keep at it. Secondly, you need to wait until you've reached a point in your relationship where sex becomes comfortably optional.

Never the first date. He will get an impression on you some way.

Wait until its a serious relationship.

How long do guys like to wait for sex when dating a girl?

I was on Facebook, and one of my friends was like I had sex with this girl within the first 2 weeks of dating her, and he called her a slut. How long should a girl wait to give it up to a guy they are dating?

If u r in school wait till u r out; then concentrate on college; when doing excellent w/both of these things; let him beg!!

A girl should wait until he says "I love you" first.

If she wants a one-night stand, then that is fine. But she should be prepared to be called some nasty names. That's life.

If a guy is seriously interested in a girl, he will wait until she's completely ready. He will not force her or manipulate her into having sex with him.

Also, if you're a girl, make sure he eats you out first. Because if you just give him a bl-wjob (without receiving) , he will feel entitled to brag about it, whereas if he was the one providing oral sex, he will not feel inclined to share - it's a guy ego thing.

What should I do if my boyfriend and I are going to different and far apart universities next year?

My bf and I are graduating this year and going to different universities next year, and we'll be separated by 3 provinces and two time zones (he'll be in BC and myself in Ontario). We've been together for over 2 years but I think that if we part, he'll find someone else... he told me to enjoy the half year that we have left together but how am I supposed to when I was hoping for our relationship to last forever just to have it cut short by university?

He's an extremely sexual person and I feel that since I gave him sex, he sort of "wants" me more. I know I love him very much and I know he cares for me a lot as well, but I'm scared that because I won't be able to see him for 4-5 months at a time (I'll be back for Winter/ Summer Break), he'll find someone else because he needs to satisfy his sexual desires. He told me himself that he can't survive in a long distance relationship because he needs that physical & sensual presence of someone with him. However, I still really want to be with him because I love him for himself, and I would definitely try as hard as I can to stay with him forever.

I had so many things in mind for us because I'd originally thought that we'd both go to the same university next year, but he got rejected, which was something that took me completely by surprise. I hadn't planned for that and now all of my plans and all of the things that I wanted to do with him next year are ruined.

I've been crying basically non-stop for the past few days and I can't concentrate on anything but him and our problem. I know that I want him to at least attempt a long-distance relationship with me. I want him to stay faithful because I know I will, and I want him to keep on loving me because I've always thought that he's the one I'm going to marry and the one that I'll be with forever. I've accepted him for himself, and I honestly couldn't care less whether he works or goes to university after high school - I love him for him.

What should I do? Should I stay with him or should I leave him now (although we have half a year left together and I really enjoy spending time with him)? If he still wishes to break up after high school, how am I supposed to cope, seeing that I'm already in bits and pieces at the prospect of it? Also... could you help me understand him? To me, it seems that half a year of dating is useless if I'm expected to just break up and stop loving him immediately afterwards. He, on the other hand, doesn't see a problem and wants to just enjoy what time we have left. I would think that if he really wanted to enjoy a relationship with me, he'd try to stay in a long distance relationship with me because it's not as if we're going to be separated forever... although 4-5 months at a time for 4 years is pretty tedious.

Just a note: I've tried to break up with him before but it's never worked because I kept on going back to him. I believe that he's the one for me, but I don't think that he does (for one, he hates how negative I am and doesn't understand why I want him to constantly tell me that he loves me, hug me, etc.) - I'm just a really insecure person and I'll admit that part of why I love him is because I'm not lonely with him around and I feel more confident - he always wants to go out with me every weekend and he shares a lot of things with me.

Any help is appreciated :) ~

He has the right idea, and you could just as easily find someone else at college too. I'd stay with him and then end it before you go to college, so that way you can still spend time with him but you know it's over. You can enjoy being with him while you're with him. If it's meant to be, you guys will get back together. Have faith, and trust me, you will be okay without him.

Would you date a shy girl if she was a virgin even if you have plenty of dating/sex experience?

She never dated, is young. You're a little older and much experienced. Is she a turn off or not?

Not a problem!

Why do kids insist on dating, and having sex at younger ages?

Really, why do they? Kids as young as 10-12 really shouldn't care about dating at that age. Some of them don't even get the whole concept of what love really is. And all of this kids around 13-15 having sex is just wrong! It's like they're trying to grow up faster than they really are.

I completly agree with you. It is sick and wrong how many kids on here are dating/kissing/having sex and all that. I blame partially the media for all the over saturation of sex in tv, music etc. But also the parents for letting them watch that stuff, and for not explaining it. But That sort of stuff was in the media even when I was young, and I never wanted to have sex at 12 or anything. I think it may stem from kids wanting to do adult things, like when a little girl puts on her mom's make up or something. And without a proper explination they think that sex is just another form of that same type of thing.
Ok, I'm done ranting now.

wow i didnt know people could be so stupidly idiotic as you are. quote "and all of this kids around 13-15 having sex"
who are you kidding? who are you to judge? WHERE DID YOU GET THESE STUPID STATS AT?!
I have never dated, nvr kissed, im a virgin, all of my friends are, most of my friends have

(continued) never dated or been kissed.and were 14! what is wrong with kissing and dating anyway? you never did it as a teen around this age? were you not mature enough for it? did no one want to date you? "dont get the whole concept of love?" some people dont EVER understand love. EVER. so dont

(continued) act like Obama like you are the greatest thing since sliced bread. if you were smart enough you could have answered this yourself" HORMONES! should i look that word up? go to college!

Society has gradually become more accepting to the idea of 13 year olds having sex. In the 1800s, kids wanted to have sex, but knew that society would not tolerate it.

THIS IS SERIOUS TO ME SO PLEASE I NEED SERIOUS ANSWERS......?

A little over two years ago I was with a guy named Chris for two years. He became very abusive (I had broken nose black eyes, etc) While I was with him my friend introduced me to a guy named Blake. Blake would come see me at work and we would just talk. I am not the cheating type so even though I was unhappy things never went farther than talking. Blake helped me get out of the bad relationship I was in (I will always have love for Chris even thought no one seems to understand why). Blake and I ended up dating and moving in with eachother and have now been together for a little over two years and I have fell in love with him and would love to spend the rest of my life with him but here is my problem: me and him talked about kids and marriage and he always told me he wants a family with me. For some reason I cant seem to get pregnant though but we still try. About a year ago I was very depressed (I still have flashbacks of my ex and the things he did and I was very jump about certain things.) I went through a stage that I didn’t want to have sex or anything but I thought things were still going good with me and him. one day I came home from work and Blake wasn’t there. I cooked dinner and had everything ready for him and he never showed up. After a couple days I got worried and told his mom something wasn’t right his id and social security card and everything was still at the house so she said to put a missing person out on him and I did. I have a friend at the radio station who did an announcement for me. A week after he was missing a friend of his who we call his brother called and said blake wants you to bring his stuff to his brothers house and I told him I would but I wanted to talk to blake because I figured he was leaving me and just didn’t plan on telling me. I found out he was at a previous girlfriends house about 30 or 45 min away and he did cheat on me but we decided to work things out anyway because we both love eachother and he said he only did it because I wasn’t giving him the attention and sex that he need which I completely understand. But during all this his sister calls and fills me in that he has an ex wife and 3 kids by 3 different woman. I talked to him about it and he told me everything and he said that’s not a part of his life he is proud of and the girls wont let him see his kids so he didn’t want to say anything about it. Any other girl would have left him but I told him we could work through things and I would try to help him get custody of his kids. We don’t talk about his kids because it’s a touchy subject and that’s the only time I have ever seen him cry. But after that whole week of finding everything out things were going good and then a couple months later we got into an argument because a friend of his told me he was cheating on me with a bunch of girls ( later I found out his friend liked me) but I left him and then he started seeing one of the girls his friend said he cheated on me with so I believed he cheated but he says he didn’t until we were broken up but she says otherwise but I know how girls can be. We got back together after about a month and things were real good we moved into a new place and everything but then sarah the girl he was talking to when we split up kept calling my phone and told me when he stops calling her she will stop calling him. she would tell me he went to see her and stuff but the times she claims he was with her he was with me. But then he forgot to log out of his myspace and I saw a message he sent her saying for her to call him he had a lot to say. There was messages back and forth but nothing about them meeting up or anything but she said I love you to him and stuff like that but I didn’t see any messages from him saying anything like that. of course the fact that he was still talking to her caused and argument and also I found messages to other girls like hey beautiful and stuff like that which really hurt me but no proof or nothing to say that anything went any farther than myspace. He says its childish to get upset about myspace that its just the comp but it really hurts me. I have never seen his myspace since then and the other day I asked to see it and he wouldn’t let me. I told him he must have something to hide then but he swears he isn’t doing anything and hes not cheating on e that he loves me that im his only one. But it still bothers me that he only goes on myspace when im at work or asleep and he also deleted me as a friend when we had split up and just finally added me back after a couple months. Myspace causes us to argue all the time. I love him and I know he loves me but he is the type of guy that doesn’t show his emotions but I need the attention sometimes and lately he has been acting funny but when I ask him if he wants me to leave he says no. so what do I do. He used to talk about marriage but im the only one to talk about it anymore but I feel like he doesn’t want to be with me. It could just be me but its tearing me a

Well to me this guy sound's like a hit n run get the fun out of you for awhile and have a back up is he rich does he have money, enemy's? if so he's probably ewither hiding or can't afford his own place and ith the girl's and kid's maybe you should try finding them and talking to and c why he left them with kid's Well this is my best of answer so best of luck to u girl if you could also check ou my question i could use a little help like this 2 :'(

Would you....(PICS INCLUDED)?

Date this guy. He cheats on every girl he's been w/(probably 9???) and one of my friends was dating him and he went and has sex with 2 girls!!!!!!!!

here's a pic of him
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No and yes. No, because he obviously if he cheats on girls I wouldn't. Because nine times out of ten he would cheat on me. And yes because people can change. If they really truly want to. It all depends on the girl. But remember no boy is worth your self respect.
Hoped I helped!

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DUDE HES ******* UGLY

Absolutely not. He looks like some druggie. He's ugly. He shouldn't be playing anyone. He's not cute nor is he worth your time.

Plus, he seems like an idiot.

no,he looks ugly and nasty to me!!!!!!

No Way!

NOOOOO looks like a freak

holy god hes ugly

no, im not gay. but this question is. but hey im just doin this for the points.

hope this helps!

if i were a chick, i'd crucify him with pencils!

Yikes, no. But I would date Nick Jonas!

No. He's not even that hot. Even if he weren't like that.

Hahahaha. He looks like a hobo, except maybe less attractive than most hobos.

no, but only because of what you said, not the pic

AHHHH NOOOOO! CARROT TOP.

LMAO WTF is that?

Well i am straight but the dude looks like a stoner who just got electricuted :D

Noooooo way. think of your friend. If he has already hurt her he can do it to you. Plus it wouldnt be fair on her. Don't do it. You will only get hurt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

jerk

NO!!! Ew...I dont like like the sound of hes personality and hes butt UGLUY!!

hes kinda cute,
but no i wouldnt let him cheat on me
and treat me like a piece of crap !

I am 16 , and wish to date a 13 almost 14 girl, what do you think?

I am 16 , and wish to date a 13 almost 14 girl, what do you think?
I plan on not having sex with her, until she gets older, or not at all. We are both very responsible, and I do not think that age should be a problem with this type of condition, what does yahoo think? Is she to young for me or do you think I should go with it and take things slow.

hugh hefner is like 90 and he dates 18 yr olds...

First of all, it is law that the youngest age a person can date is half of their age, plus seven. If you are sixteen, half of that would be eight, add seven, and that is fifteen. Legally, you should not date her. However, in my own opinion, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that relationship. If she is almost fourteen, then that is only two years younger then you. I would leave the decision up to her, if she feels she is mature enough to handle a relationship with an older guy, then go for it. Especially if you're as responsible as you say you are and you are not planning on having a sexual relationship. Bottom line, ask the girl out, and good luck. :)

So long as you two are responsible and respect what those around you, your families, have to say about it, lots of luck, and like you said, as far as sex is concerned, until she's 18, just have your older brother buy you a dirty magazine. In some states, a 16 yo male can be prosecuted for statutory rape, and if you're 18 and she isn't at the age of consent, (check your states' law here), you're as good as screwed. Good luck, and good caution.

The fact that you are asking this question would seem to indicate that you think or suspect something might not be quite right. I do not think your motives will matter much in this case.In almost all of the states of the union, you would be guilty of some crime if you date a girl that young with or without engaging in sexual intercourse with her. Plus your admission that you are into younger girls will not help you (every word after that is going to be missed). Hence do your self a favor and steer clear of these minors----they are called jail bait for a reason. If you refuse , you may find out why they are called jail bait.

Don't do it...I know someone who dated a girl that much younger and in that age frame and it was the biggest mistake EVER she was so immature and they fought all the time and you'll reach a point where you want different things, and your view on life will change and she'll be way far behind you....wait until shes older.

your right, age DOESNT matter. but it actually does when the people are in their teenage years. i think that she's too young for you, you can get a girl your age. and if you can't find one then you just wait and see.. what happens in the future. i think that you should just end it. at least be in the same school level as in both in high school, then date.

i definetely think you should try it out, ive liked a few guys before that are that many years older than me, and im the girls age. i mean especially because youre not going to have sex because shes oo young for that. i think if you really like each other, age doesnt matter so i think that you should give it a shot and see if you two really click. i hope everything works out for you and her =]

I think when it comes to dating in highschool its less so the actual age and more so the grade difference, since the grade your in usually depicts the maturity level...like when a senior dates a freshmen i think that's a little strange because they are on such different paths, so i guess no more than a two grade diffence would be fine, anymore seems a little off to me.

You say you don't PLAN on having sex, BUT lyfe is unpredictable. SOOOO YOU (maybe her too) will most likely get horny and want to do it. I guess you both are pretty young... But SHE'S really young, she's barely a teenager, so I'm not sure. But I guess you being 16 isn't all that mature either. So if you two like each other a lot, I guess it's worth a shot. Just treat her with respect and if she says no... It's NO!

I think its rediculous! I'm sorry....but you did ask. Look, WHY does it need to be "girfriend and boyfriend"????? I would strongly suggest, you encourage healthy activities such as interests...horseriding,tennis,bushwalki… etc,etc,and forge your friendships around those WITHOUT branching out into looking for girlfriends. You have all the time in the world!! Why go complicating your young life with trying to grow up faster than is really best for you.Happiness and fulfillment starts with YOU. Stop looking around, trying to fill your happiness with other people to bolster you up. you ask if you should take things slow. Let me suggest young man, you don't even start! IF you choose to do so.....you better get ready for a miserable life of teenage parenthood, screaming children, scratching the bottom of the barrel for almost eternity for a few coins to live on, and barely making each week through, and a young wife putting demands on you to fulfil your responsibilities as her own father did, who worked at whatever he could find just to feed their mouths, let alone all the other little extras, only to realise your'e downright miserable, should have listened to wisdom when you had it, and now your looking to see how you can get out of it, which break it or make it, you finally do, only to find, that whatever you earn in the way of income, you are still required to feed and clothe your detached family of wife and several children by now, and as time goes by, you finally meet the woman of your dreams, and wished you had'nt settled for second best in the beginning, and you want to make a home for yourself and your new soul mate, and so you work very hard, only to find after heartbreaking years, your no further closer to having a life of your own in a lovely home with your soul mate, because whatever you earn, however much you work for, your original family of wife and children must recieve a % of what you bring home, and in the meantime, your soul mate, has had it, and leaves you, in search of a bright new beginning for herself, a man without complications in his life and no hassles. So my dear boy, Think about it. Long and hard. and don't try to tell us, we don't know what we're talking about, because we do, for in some way....many of us have "been there, done that......and are still wondering...what happened....and how could they have done it better....when they had the chance."
Forget girls, and focus on helping others, learning, and studying, and a whole host of other things that will help you to develope into a stable young adult, with his head screwed on right!!!

I am around that age and a junior likes me too but i just thought that he is toooooo OLD so maybe you should wait a little while until you are a senior and she is 16 or one of those ages ( I didn't do the math) i would say wait!!!!!!

14 year old dating a 19 year old?

i'm 14, and this guy likes me, and i like him. he's 19. but he doesn't want me for sex, i'm sure. he's EXTREMELY christian, like "i'm saving myself for marriage" christian. we actually prayed together a few times. he's my friend's brother and i've known that friend for a long time.

is it like EXTREMELY illegal if we date?

Spongebob?

I am a 19 year old girl and I like a 14 year old boy. He likes me back, and we have good chemistry. We just connect. I fully understand to stay away from him until he is 18. However I believe that if we are really that connected, nothing will come between us until then. I see nothing wrong with it.

Im 19 and my gf is 14. we connect and i have all consent from her mother. In Ohio if legal guardian consents then the law cannot do anything.We dont do any sexual things because i know her age and i keep myself from doing anything. I will wait 5 years untill that happens

You can date him now!

I'm somewhat distraught by this question. It is only illegal if someone reports him for statutory rape, but I believe that's only the case if you have relations with him. People say age is just a number, and I agree to some extent. Yes, there need to be boundaries for youth and yes, there definitely needs to be boundaries set for behavior between age groups, but age only really becomes "a number" when you're older. 5 years apart at 14 and 19 seem like a big deal now, but my parents are 6 years apart and their in their 50s and 60s, but it doesnt seem to matter.

The choice is really in your hands, but it's probably best to wait until you are 18. If he really likes you, he will understand and he will wait.

Yes, it is illegal if you date. Even if you don't have sex, you are a MINOR. You are a child and he is not. He is legally, in every sense of the word an adult.


He can go to jail or prison if your parents or if anyone EVER reported him with a rumor or a hunch that you two are doing anything.


Even if you two were consenting 100% of the time, he can still go away for a very long time, and could even be deemed a sex offender.

Don't listen to these retards, 2000 years ago, when this Christian thing all came about, being 14 and dating a 19 year old wasn't wrong or illegal, Most states the age of consent is 16 or 17, You just can't be involved in some sort of porn or buy cigarettes til you are 18, But as long as you don't have sex, it isn't illegal, But as long as you don't go telling everyone everything you did, You should be fine doing whatever you please :]

Honey- It doesn't matter if he prays all the time and is a "extreme christian" he's a man, well not even a man if he wants to be with a child, by law you're still a minor and he's an adult, he can get arrested, no matter how grown you think you are, the consq. are serious! And I hope your parents don't approve, if they do, they have serious problems. It's called Statutory Rape, and he can be in jail up to 20 years. Wait until you're 18 or find a guy your age. That's all we need is a child getting pregnant by a man that will not support you in the end.

Take care, and don't be with him!!
Jen

Dating him is not illegal. It's when sex becomes involved that statutory rape charges can be brought against the older party. Those charges can be very damaging and have someone listed as a sexual predator even if the sex was consensual.

From what you've said, the relationship would not be illegal. Just remember to know yourself and if you are ever uncomfortable, tell him.

I actually was 15 when i dated my boyfriend then 19.(He was in college and girls would throw themselves at him! so it was kind of hard to deal with that.) At first he would get teased by some of his friends and stuff. We didn't have sexual relationships till we got married. I am now 21 years old and still with the same person. I mean there are some instances where the age gap really doesn't work out and there are times that it does. Age is just a number and the mentality and maturity level also play a part. Good luck and just listen to your heart.

Oh god.. i cheated on my boyfriend!!?

We have been dating for almost two years and lately hes been driving me crazy, all i do is work full time and hang out with him so today i told him i had to work a double and ended up calling an old guy friend over (it was a spur of the moment idea) so we had sex and he left but now i feel like ****... because i love my bf but hes in between jobs right now smokes weed everyday and drives me insance because he cant afford to take me out or even rent a movie, any money he doesnt get goes to his drugs... the guy i cheated on him with does drugs to so hes not much better but when we were having sex today he was actually doing all the work and touching me and kissing me the right way and looking at my body and looking into my eyes which i really liked so now im confused.. i love my bf but i think we are drifting apart and i feel bad about cheating on him! ahhhh :(

Leave the guy your with. It's not love anymore, it's just comfortable being with him because you have been... it's almost routine. You'll know the perfect one when you find him.. and this dude isn't it... neither was the guy you slept with.. a little strange is always nice, but never bunk with the friend with benefits. Good luck.

give me a break, u r trying to choose between two guys who smoke weed?? oh brother!! and if u didnt want to cheat on him, well that was ur own fault dumb*ss!!

soooooooo whats the question here

hwoer

You need to get your priorities right.

Now excuse me, you aint worth another letter.

if you cheated on him you have nobody to blame but yourself

Fess up or just break up with your boyfriend. The guilt of cheating on somebody will tear you apart.
And don't get with the new guy either because he will just use the fact that you cheated on your ex against you.

I think it's time to break up with him. You obviously don't respect him enough to stay.

sucks u didnt make a good choice.
since both guys r like the same ****.
idk what to tell u. u ****** up u needa tell him.
its pretty fuked up if u dont

ummm 4get about both of them and get some1 that is not a lowlife who does drugs

Dont date guys who do drugs. Simple

ummm ok. Sounds like you are attracted to losers and maybe you and your boyfriend should break up.

well done

I'm a little confused on what your question is.
And to quite honest, neither sound right.They both do drugs?And cheating on him doesn't sound responsible either.


--Annie

You feel bad about cheating on an unmotivated burn out? Are you related to Pamela Anderson?

so what's the big deal, pick a pot head and have a nice day

Sometimes people drift. if you felt a drift you should have taken a break or told him so you could talk it out. You have been dating for two years it's over you conscience will kill you if you don't tell him and if you do you will be way further than drifting apart

Tell him you cheated and don't have sex with him until you get yourself checked for STD's. He needs to protect himself from you. You screwed a drug addict-- no telling what he gave you.

You should break up with him. Just because he is "driving you nuts" gives you no right to cheat on him.

yup your a skeez

yeah your a cheat and a fraud. What do you want us to tell you?

TOO BAD SO SAD FOR HIM!

i feel sorry for you but ur a ho

Wow. What a tough place you are in. My brother is an addict and I know that things just get worse. Especially if all he does is smoke weed all day. That's scary and you have to ask yourself if you want to live with that forever. If not then move on.

good luck

What's the question?

I sure hope you are using birth control. Whose baby would it be if you got pregnant? And I guess, does it even matter? They both sound like total losers who don't have the maturity or self-control to stop using drugs.

Who gives a **** about some dumb pothead? And why do you only sleep with crackheads?

i don't know what to tell you sound's like your screwed i say just dump him and the other guy and find someone that doesn't smoke or do drug's.

YOU ARE REALLY SELFISH FOR DOING SUCH A THING HE DOES NOT DESERVE THAT...AT ALL

Honey, what you did is absolute proof that you do NOT love your boyfriend. People do NOT CHEAT on the one they love, no matter what the circumstances.

Tell him, break up with him, and find someone you can care enough about to keep your legs closed for.

Tell your boyfriend its over, if he cant do what u lyk then there is no point in dragging him any further

I don't know.
I hope the best though.
I would tell him, but that could wreck your relationship.
I would not tell him, but that could also wreck your relationship.
Just don't lie.
Or you can tell him when he's high lol.

If you dating someone how long should you wait till you have sex?

If you dating someone how long should you wait till you have sex? Is it ok to have sex on the first night or is best to hold off for a while? Every guy I go out on a date with are always all over me and are very persistant at keep trying it on. Sometimes it can be hard to resist if he is really good looking and he is turning you on so I was just wondering if it is ok to have sex on first date or should you wait? If you wait how long should you wait for? And what is the best way to avoid the sex...

I personally would wait about 3 months the least.
I feel like if you give it up early, especially on the first date that the guy is most likely with you to get in your pants. How would you know if he likes you for you?

1 it depends on your relationship or how much you're into him. It would be better to consider if you were on Birth Control, if there are condoms available or if you feel that you're not ready, then hold off and don't give any signals that you want to. And make sure to be honest with the guy so he knows what's going on and that it's not a sign you're brushing him off. Good luck! I've been there before.

It depends on what you want. If you want sex and aren't looking to stay in the relationship for a while, have safe sex the first night out. If you're looking for long-term, hold it off until you know he's comfortable. Check out some of these tips on sex. They might help in and out of bed.

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NOT the first date. It depends on how old you are and how serious your relationship is. If you could see yourself being with him for a while (years) then that's a much better time than the first date. after you get to know him well definitely

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whenever you feel its right. no time limit

its up to you

Would you take back a boy if he cheated on you?

you've been really great friends for 3 years. you start to date, then he tells you he had sex with another girl. drunk sex, does that validate it? =( i dont know what to do. what would you do?

You didn't say, so i'll ask: Do you mean he had sex with someone else before you started dating? Or were you dating when it happened? If it happened before you were dating, then why would it matter?

If you and he were already dating when it happened, then consider this: It was he that chose to drink so much that he passed the point of being able to control himself, which directly resulted in him sleeping with someone else.

If you forgive him this time, then you're essentially telling him that it's okay for him to sleep around, as long as he gets drunk first. Is that the kind of message you want to send?

No, drunk sex doesn't validate anything. And the fact you were great friends for 3 years actually makes things worse. Maybe he's scared of the relationship and that's what happened. Whatever the case, I wouldn't take him back. But, it's your decision and since it's a new relationship and you've been friends it will be hard to just break up with him. If you do take him back, do it on a probationary basis( i know that sounds bad) but, this gives you the chance to decide what goes with this relationship. Because he will be working hard to get out of the dog house. and if he's not, then sooo not worth it!

I do give him credit for telling you. well, if you would have found out otherwise then no. but if it was something he could have kept from you forever, then you have to look at that fact too.

Good luck!

Hey, the fact that he was drunk is no excuse, don't say its ok b/c he was drunk otherwise next time he stuffs up he'll use the same excuse. It's easy for people to say get rid of him, but you need to sit down and ask youself how much you like this guy and whether you want to let him go? If you love him and still want to be with him then give him another chance, after all everyone deserves a second chance - right? Make sure he knows that he stuffed up and how much he hurt you. For the fact that he told you and didnt keep it a secret obviously means that he cares about you and was feeling really guilty otherwise he wouldnt have said anything. It will be hard for you to trust him now, but you need to try put it behind you and forgive him otherwise it will ruin your relationship. Just remeber you can forgive but don't forget :)

I hate to say it but I've been cheated on too. I know it hurts. My ex was my best friend for 5 years and we dated for 7 months during that time he cheated on me with 3 girls the first time it was that he called a girl and they went on date but he said it was just to talk, the next time he kissed a girl in front of me his excuse he did it on a bet, the 3rd time I went to his house and there was girl there half naked he walked out wearing pants but nothing else. so in my experience lies and distrust and cheating leads to more lies distrust and cheating. And you may love him and he may love you but you do not want to be with a man who 1 gets drunk and 2 has sex with another woman.
you r a wonderful person for at least giving him a chance.

Yes, I think that you should give him another try. He cheated, it's bad - but he didn't lie. Being drunk is no justification, if anything it makes it worse to know that he can't hold himself together. But, a friendship of 3 years is nothing to scoff at! Let him know that's he's on a tight leash so that he doesn't get upset if you get jealous or suspicious in the future (even if he is innocent). See how it goes; forgiveness is key to a serious relationship.

He shouldn't have let himself get into a situation to get drunk and have sex with another girl while he was dating you. Continue your friendship, but don't take him back immediately. If he earns your trust back, after a long period of time, go for a relationship again. But it might even turn out by that time that you will have both moved on.

Hope I helped!

P.S. Being drunk doesn't validate anything: sex, driving, or anything else!

I couldn't, if you did get back wit him all you would think about is that he had sex with another girl. Even if it was drunk sex, if you care about someone no matter how drunk you are you don't cheat on them! You deserve better, and you will find it, and he has to live with the mistake he mae for the rest of his life

Were you two a couple when he was with the other girl? If so I would never take him back. If you do, it will become the story of your life. You choose how others treat you, and if you stay with one cheater you will probably let others treat you the same way. In my personal opinion women are better off by themselves than with a guy that cheats. If you can't live without him why don't you give him an ultimatum - you two be friends again for a month, he doesn't sleep with other girls, then you may consider taking him back if he can prove himself worthy.

Lol Umm I'm not gay or anything just happend to my friend a couple times makes me wanna punch her in the face for saying that haha don't do it don't take him back he is just gonna end up hurtin you again and it could be worst this time :P Find someone else it's a big world with lots of people
you can always find someone better :] Hope i helped haha Have a great night

Um, first of all i am a guy so this might not be what your looking for, and also i know that this is hard, but yes, it does validate it. Break up with him, but tell him why so he knows that its time for him to change. Then if you see any change then there might be the chance that you could go out with him again.

If he did it after 3 years, then that's bad. But if he did it at the beginning of your relationship, and it hasn't happened since, then you might could work things out. If you do stay with him, I definatly wouldn't trust him to go out drinking anymore, and no I don't think that validates it at all.

Drunk? Even not drunk, yeah, I'd give it one more go, but any further infractions would be grounds for immediate and permanent termination of the relationship. People screw up. If he's really sorry then he's going to put in a lot of work to make things better. But third chances in a relationship? Hell no.

Yes. I would.
I believe everyone deserves another chance.
(How many chances is up to you)
This was a bad time
but are you going to sacrifice all of your good times because of it?
It's not worth it. What happened happened. What's done is done.
You should move on from it and accept that these kinds of things happen.
Forgiveness is the best gift.

Drunkiness is NO excuse; he should have not been drinking in the first place!

If you decide to get back together with him, you won't trust him as you would trust another boy that has done nothing as...bad and wrong as what he did.

Watch yourself, becuase if I were you, I'd leave him and fast! He'll might all over you next!

~ I hope this helps!

DUMP HIS *** a drunk guy still has a brain that works its been proven means brains can handle 3 times as much as his body can so he knew what he was doing it doesn't matter if y'all were friends for 3 years he cheated on you fair and square and he'll do it again if you give him the cance

depends on how much you love him and if YOU think its worth it
not if people on here think its worth it.
its all up to you
i know thats not what you want to hear but its the truth
we cant chose for you.

maybe give him a second chance and then if he does it again be done with him 100%?
my opinion but like i said before its all up to you.

it's about self respect... you can't respect yourself if you're in a relationship with a guy who doesn't respect you, and he wouldn't cheat on you if he respected you... no matter how drunk he was... i've been drunk... i've never cheated. it's no excuse... you can do way better, hun.

it depends. in you situation no! it depends though i probably wouldn"t take baK a guy if he cheated on me unless i loved him soooooooooo much i cudn't live without him. just like in the Twilight Series with Edward and Bella. only Edward didn't cheat on her. she just lives with a hole in her chest for a long time cuz he leaves her.

TAKE HIM BACK! its ok if he has drunk sex everyone does it! hey you should try it some time its pretty cool. getting drunk in the first place is pretty cool too! especialy if it starts to ruin your life then you could be an alcoholic but who rreally cares you kno?

hope i helped! :DD

What is a good free website for finding casual sex/ mabye dating?

what is a good free website for finding casual sex/ mabye dating??
i am not interested if you have to pay because the amount you pay is ridiclous and it really isnt worth it.
thanks.

ther are none, trust me i tried they all want money, which to me means prostitution,

I dont think there is any, they all want money. if u find one let me know

There are many dating and sex sites on the internet,Which one in your opinion is the best? ?

I have tried dating sites and I am tired of playing that game. I want to know if anyone has had a good experience on a peculiar one? It doesn't matter what kind .The sex sites keep popping up in the most unusual places, Is there one better that the other? They must spend a Fortune on advertising. Somebody is making money.

have a look on adult frindfinder they review and compare the best ones to help you find one that suits you. Users can vote sites up or down the rankings too so it should be pretty accurate

What are the best adult sex dating sights?

I was on adult friend finder and I would get 60 alerts a day (an alert meaning someone ha flirted with you, hot listed you or e-mailed you and it turned out they were all fake). I emailed one girl (or may be it was a guy posing as a girl and just wrote would you do it with a dead moth and would get a response asking to go to her hot mail account, are any legit?

real-life.com

inyourmind.dolt

youradumbass.com

no idea

Craigslist.I've met several fine girls there.they want cash but hey what's a married man to do.....

My boyfriend hurts me, but doesn't hit me =/?

been dating him for almost 1 1/2 years. both in our last year of high school.
boyfriend wanted to meet up today. I was already in the city early in the morning studying (he knew this) and couldn't WAIT to see him (hadn't seen him for a week).

20 minutes before our date, he gets his FRIEND (who happens to be my friend as well) to text me saying he couldn't make it because he was sick. I asked if the friend was with my boyfriend and he said yes, they were both sick and at the friends house together. Called me and asked if we could hang out tomorrow. Said that i was busy (i'm not but i was quite angry at him and lost that excited feeling of wanting to see him the instant i got that text message). He said he would talk later. That call lasted about 30 seconds

I'm just thinking
1. It was quite inconsiderate to have TEXTED me that he couldn't make it. and even more disrespectful to get his friend to text me (he had no credit but still.)
2. He seemed perfectly fine the last time i talked to him (before he went to bed)
3. He seemed perfectly eager to go out tomorrow.

Plus i was angry because i had only brought 2 hrs worth of study material and had to go home instead of spending the whole day studying which could have happened if he had notified me EARLIER.

He has cancelled a few dates now at the last minute, or he has told me he wouldn't be going out with me (and my friends (mix of guys and girls that he knows quite well) but then has turned up a couple hours late with a friend which has made me think he didn't actually come to see me (but he acts like he does)

We've been talking about having sex recently and i know when we do (if we do now), i want to have NO doubts or insecurities about him or us. So now i'm not so sure. He's a good boyfriend otherwise.


Help? =/

actually, i think the problem is that he's just not consistent with his actions. just don't know why ?
and don't say he's probably cheating..i'll know if he is (thanks to my friends who have connections haha.)

Well it is hard based upon what we have to draw any real conclusions. He was inconsiderate to a degree. I am not sure I buy the sick story. If he really was sick, how did he know he's be up to seeing you the next day? I suspect he got what he considered a better offer to hang out with. He does seem to take you for granted - she doesn't mind - she's my girlfriend - I can always see her. After 18 months his level of commitment ought to be higher.

That said, you also seemed to have over - reacted a bit. Unless this is an ongoing pattern which I suspect it is. Guys can be stupid, they get the idea that once they have got you as a girl friend they can stop all the little loving attentions that won your heart to begin with.

You are suffering not from hurt as much as neglect. I think you need to have an honest conversation about your needs as a woman for his love and affection on an ongoing basis and see if he is up to the task or not. You need to know you are number one in his affections and desires. Right now you have doubts that his activities or his friends rack higher - at least sometimes.

Hold back on sex for the moment. Sexual union will make a bad relationship seem closer than it is and cloud your thinking. wait until things are good between you two. Sexual activity should reflect the same depth of the romance in all other areas of your relationship. If it does not, you will soon feel used, rather than fulfilled.

When is it appropriate to start having sex while dating?

I'm currently dating this girl and we just had our second date. We've only kissed once. While I don't want her to think I'm moving fast, I don't want to be slow and complacent. Is there a time when I should start trying or just wait for it too happen on it's own?

Sounds like things are doing fine. For now, I would suggest that the next step is to attempt is to get to second base. As in she touch your genitals or you touch her breasts for instance. I do think inviting her back to your place would let you know if she has interest in reaching the next level.

It is showing that you have some level of interest.

Does a female look &quot;easy&quot; if she has sex with her date on the first date?

Is it ok for the male in this situation, he doesn't look "easy" he's just plain "lucky". Is there a double standare here?

Yes of course there is a double standard and always has been.
Men see it as being alucky jack the lad.
But if a woman puts out so to speak on the first date she is easy - how many other guys has she put out to?
They like to think the woman they have chosen has a bit of class about her.
And actually so she should have. First date? You barely know the guy and probably cant even remember his surname!
Why would you want to sell yourself short like that?
Isnt it better to wait, see if it is going to work? It might be over in a week.
I know its thought of as laughable - but thats a gift of part of you that you are giving away. Its saying something.
It becomes nothing if you are willing to give it away for the price of a dinner out somewhere and never to see the guy again maybe.
Always better to wait. Self respect will garner respect given to you.

It's not normal!

yeah

How would anyone else know if you had sex on the first date - unless one of you tells? (or unless you like having sex in public, but thats another story :-)

so, if you're having sex, make sure its with mature, sensible people who are not going to 'kiss and tell'

Get over it.
Yes shes a slut

it depends on the situation really, she will looke easy if she didnt know the guy too long before the date, the guy can come off lookin a bit easy too, in my eyes anyway.

Yes, it makes the female look very easy she doesnt even know him that well yet and had just hopped into bed with him.
You should get to know each other better before sleeping with each other but hardly anyone follows them rules nowadays

Yeah, she may look cheap and he is lucky.

No, just desperate.

yes double standards BTW tell your sister thanks for the other night .

There probably is a double standard. If as a woman you want a one night stand then go for it and have a great time. But if you are looking for something more meaningful then find out more about your man before jumping into the sack with him. Men will often jump into the sack with anyone taking whatever seems to be on offer. Only later might they start thinking about having meaningful relationships. But I think that men should be a bit more careful about hurting women by taking advantage of them and then dumping them. I would not view a woman as "easy" if she jumped into bed quickly with me. I would see her as someone who enjoyed sex and got a lot out of it. I would see it as a good thing. But many men are not like me. Many men would see such women as "easy" and perhaps have less respect for them. So be careful. Think about what you want and make sure that you get all of what you want--the good sex and all of the meaningful stuff too!

my opinion is no i think the whole idea of sluts or slags is stupid a women should have complete sexual freedom unless in another relationship

it doesnt make you look easy it just means you are! i for one never had a relationship with a girl that i slept with on the first night. and no its not fair but then again perhaps girls should not want the same from guys that have unprotected sex either

Yes, and the second too...

Yes she does and yes, there are double standards in everything to do with male/female relationships that are left over from pre 2nd world war days. With STD's and HIV/AIDS on the increase to me it makes sense to be on the safe side and get to know a person, his background, where he comes from etc. before having sex.

There has always been double standards as far as that goes. The male does that and is a "stud" the female does and, at best, the term used is "easy".

Yes, she does and yes it is.

ABSOLUTELY.!

It's always the way im afraid!! A bloke is branded a stud if he does it and a woman is branded a slut! I suppose it's due to the way men and woman look at things differently!

no you should always (for a girl) coz she cotrnols it do it on the third otherswise you look to easy or too frigid,

Sex on the First date is only a Prostitutes prerogative. That applies to both sexes.

To me No its no different to a bloke.

Yes unfortunately women do look easy if they have sex on the first date. This is the 21st century and we still have old fashioned attitudes like that. But if you look at it another way, it is best to get to know someone first before you have sex with them. If you just want to satisfy a need then why not have sex on the first night?

it really depends how long shes known her date.it doesnt matter if they met on line or at a social gathering

Both the female and the male look "easy", which is fine for both if they're OK with appearing that way. If either a male or a female wants to appear a little more discriminating then it's OK to consider waiting a while. Another way to look at it might be - is it OK for a male to look "easy" but not a female? I think in that case society does often apply a double standard.

Either way (whether a woman or man) it looks bad but yes it is double standards as when guys do this they just regard it as cool and that it means the bloke most be very attractive etc as the woman couldn't resist him whereas a woman they just say she must be an easy catch/desperate.

yes.

that nasty. and that gives him the idea that your a slut..

by if youre fine with that..

yes...............

There have always been double standards operating and always will be. There is a very good reason for it too. The male of the species is programmed to spread his seed and impregnate as many females as possible, hence his propensity to want to have sex with pretty much any female he meets. Women on the other hand are programmed to nurture children and seek good father material to protect them. Women are going against nature by being promiscuous and by sleeping with a lot of men, particularly on the first date, or having one night stands. Feminism has created the belief that young women seem to have that they should behave sexually as men do. It has done no favours.

What matters is if the sex is good enough to lead beyond first night..

yes

Do most western girls follow the dating advice in Sex and the City?

Like in that episode where Samantha dates a guy with a small penis 3 inches erect. Would you dump a guy over something like that?

No...it's just a reality tv show. It's just for entertainment.

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Why yes, yes I would, 3 inches is a cocktail wiener, all gone in just one bite. I want someone who can stretch me a bit.