he is 27, i'm 18, nearly 19. we have been dating for 2 months. when i was last at his, it got a little passionate and we were kissing on his bed (clothed) with him lying on top of me. however he quickly got off of me. i told him that i was worried that we were moving too fast and he said he will stick by his promise that he will never pressurise me, and that he is more than happy with the two of us kissing and cuddling. he said he will never conscientiously hurt me. he also agreed with me that it was far too soon for sex and he had to stop himself getting carried away at his house. he said that he doesn't want a relationship based on sex, but can a man be happy in a no sex relationship? x x
What a load of c*ck answers on here. Why not take the man for his word ? maybe he has been hurt in the past, or made a big mistake and he wants to be sure. Also if he has already promised not to pressurise you then why would he want to go back on his promise ?
Too old ? thats **** too, there is a sixteen year age gap between my wife and I and we've been together fo 14 years or so.
Also it depends on how you define a "no sex" relationship. A man can always have a chat to Pam and her 5 sisters if he feels the urge. It doesn't mean he's gay. You should know, did you not feel anything when he was on top when he "nearly lost control" ?
Give your relationship a chance, I bet its got a better chance of lasting than the easy come , easy go attitude couples that most are these days.
He sounds like a mature, intelligent man who knows you do not have the experience to protect yourself and is acting as such.
Contrary to popular belief, man are not sex crazed monsters, especially those who are over their raging-hormones phase and have a modicum of emotional maturity.
Are -you- comfortable in the relationship should be the question, or are you looking for a fall-back point, a reason for the relationship to end..
I agree, he doesnt need a relationship based on sex but it needs to involve sex (more the merrier!). My girlfriend has had issues which has resulted in us not being able to have sex for nearly 7 months. I have been with her for 7 years. I am with her cos i love her but these last 6 months have been really hard with not having sex. Things are sorted with her now and we are back on :-). So for him to say he will not have sex with you is a real bold statement if you are both wanting a long term relationship.
yea they can be happy, but im sure he'd much ratherr just have sex, i mean quys are quys- this one sounds prettty qood, but requardless all thats on their minds is sseexxx .
im not sayinqqq you have to have sex with him or he'll break up with you, but he miqht start to loose intrestt to tell you the truth, if you have sex with him, your quys' relationship will also qet better, you'll probably like him more after it, and same with him .
PS: just cause youu do it once, doesnt mean your relationship is qunna be based on itt .
He won't be happy forever, no. Nor should you. Unless you want to date a priest.
But it sounds like he's mature enough to wait for you and caring enough to wait for you.
Clearly your relationship is NOT based on sex, and he's showing you that. So don't be afraid of it.
On the other hand, if you let him know you;re ready and he still wants to wait, you may have a problem there. But I don;t think you have to worry about that.
First of all, he is too old for you. Second of all, men are still rational human beings and OF COURSE they can go without sex and still have an amazing relationship. They're not animals, for chrissakes. DO NOT make any decisions about this if you feel pressured, it doesn't sound like that's what he wants either. Men like cuddling just as much as women dol.
well i am in the same situation. im 17 and my boyfriend is 26. weve been dating for 7 months and we havnt had sex yet because we just wanted to take it slow. but eventually it catches up to you and me and my boyfriend are getting steamy now. theres no rush for sex,there will be that perfect moment for the two of you when you are both comfortable.if he really likes you, he should respect your decision.