I'm not talking about born-again Christians that had sex previously before becoming a Christian.
How many of you Christians date people and honestly do not have sex?
Hey!
ME!!!! I've dated and not had sex (anal, oral, or normal). It's not as hard as you might think, if you date the right people. In fact, if they aren't kind enough to respect my wishes and beliefs in this matter (or any other), why would I date them?
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P.S. I'll be completely honest, however. I ALMOST had sex before. But that was back when I was thirteen, young, and stupid. Not to mention it was a seventeen year old boy who had worked months to try to get in my pants. He was good at it. My mom found out. He got suspended from school. I got home-schooled. And I'm glad that it happened that way now. I'm much wiser (though I hope to grow more so over the years) and now am very glad for my virginity.
I didn't have sex.
If I was single again, I would be even more determined not to do so, nor even do deep or french kissing.
Arousing the feelings in the sex drive give you the impression you are in love, especially for women.
If the sex is not so great, you might break up, if good you might rush into marriage. Those things don't mean you will have a successful marriage.
Marriage takes work and even the sex life takes discussion.
While dating, there are many things that need to be talked about including sex, one's health condition, who is going to work, where you will live, whether you will have children, etc.
Experimenting with sex is not necessary nor useful. Nor is living together.
Debbie
There is always a difference between what any group would like it's members to do and what its member actually do. I don't get why people get hung up on this either way. God created sex so I think that he can deal with it when it happens.
I think that the taboo about sex started out as a way to prevent young people from just giving themselves out to everyone that they met. I would say that this was a very good intent. (Also loose sexual morals are looked down upon in almost every culture. Christians just took it to new levels.)It just got carried away, but people get carried away with anything that they do.
I have "fooled around" before I was a Christian, but my wife is the only one that I have had sex with. It is not a decision that I regret in the least.
C.E.
Probably not many dude....considering the sheer number of christians and the number of abortions and unwed mothers and so on. I'd say a vast majority of christians have sex before marriage. the ones who don't are generally just awkward dudes that use their religion as a cover for not being able to get laid.
The number of girls who take abstinence pledges just take on average about 18 months longer to have sex than their non pledge taking counterparts and then are more likely to get an STD when thy do engage in sex due to their severe lack of sex education.
I'm 18 and still a virgin.
Rejecting the Creator results in moral depravity (Romans 1:20-32). The Bible warns that when mankind rejects the overwhelming evidence for a Creator, lawlessness will result. Since the theory of evolution has swept the globe, abortion, pornography, genocide, etc., have all risen sharply.
Just something interesting i wanted to throw in.
You don't have to have sex to have a good time on a date. A date could be going great until some guy wants to pounce on top of you and spoil everything. Sex is beautiful when it is between a married couple and not something just to pass the time between a couple of board people on a date.
Well, for me, dating is stupid. Its just a way to hang out with several people under the offical cover that you were "searching" for "Mr./Mrs. Right" Ho's utilize this to the maximum.("I am not a slut, I was dating him") yeah right. If you really are a true person, dating is difficult. Too many people out to play "games" with you. I do know some girls who are Christians who dont have sex with their boyfriends, but eventually that predicament comes up and a few of my friends have been let go or they let go. Honestly, as a guy, I would totally love dating too. All benefits no obligations. But there are some Christians that don't not have sex. They aren't real devout I bet. Depends. But yes, there are some that wait. These are your virgins. (but not necessarily are all virgins Christian)
You will get many responses of people who did not (including myself), but that isn't really the point, is it?
We are so bombarded with how "okay" it is to have sex when you want, that many of my 7th and 8th graders think that it's okay to live together as long as you love each other. They don't even truly understand what love is yet.
Furthermore, our society is saturated with how "okay" it is to have sex outside of marriage (while you are married). We see it on TV all the time.
The point--less and less kids/adults are able to wait for the right person to share their bodies with. Women especially are tricked into giving out before they are really ready and really committed. And even if it doesn't result in an unplanned pregnancy or STD, the emotional baggage is tough to deal with.
Christians have Jesus to turn to if they are faithful enough--but other people with their agendas are making it very difficult for people to choose chastity.
I've met quite a few self proclaimed 'christians' who want to stay 'pure'. But for some reason, they think anal and oral sex are ok.
Which is fine with me,
And from the looks of the evidence, most Christians aren't real good at keeping their word. Rates of teen pregnancy are highest amongst evangelicals. So are rates of incarceration and divorce.
I didnt have sex while I was dating and I didnt have sex till I was 20 when I got married to my husband. best thing I ever did! I am now 22 so it wasnt that long ago :) its a way of giving what God gave you the way he intended, to your husband and no one else!
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If you read in the bible it would be considered adultery if you slept with anyone else because that could be someone elses wife and not yours if you dont follow the word or guidance of God.
ok well we want to stay puree. And if you go around sleeping with people being a slut then that is not very christain like. And you might be like well its just the person you are dating well you dont know if your going to marry that person or what. And I have a purity ring that means that i will stay a virgin. and its not so much just christains. Its people who just want to staty a virgin and stay pure.
Not only do we not have sex but we do not have any physical contact. Our first kiss is after the Pastor says, "I now pronounce you man and wife." The courting couple is NEVER alone together. Dates are chaperoned. The idea here is that if you start touching then you will start kissing and if you start kissing you will want to do more...go further. By not touching each other until after the wedding there's no chance of it going further.
Yes, it really is true. We take life to the fullest. Who would know the most about sex? Well, it would be the person/being that created it. In other words, God. God told us not to have sex until we marry, and since he invented it, he must know the best way of having it. And that is when you're married, and sure that the person is fully pledged to you, and you don't have to worry about "what if"s (if you know what i mean).
A lot of these comments say how many Christians get abortions, and divorces, etc. But there are many people who say they are Christians but do not. And even those who are really Christians make mistakes, though we try our hardest to become day by day more like Jesus, who was perfect.
I don't get your explanation.
I did not have sex with the guy I dated for 3 years prior to meeting my husband. I did not have sex with my husband for the 4 years we dated AND the year and a half we were engaged (engaged is NOT married...doesn't mean you aren't shacking up, doesn't mean your kid is not out of wedlock..not that any of those things are mine or anyone else's business, I just think it is stupid that people think referring to someone as their fiance changes things). My definition of engaged is a date is set not that you are living together and say you're engaged to appease people.
My other serious boyfriend had sex a few times with people before we met. We were both Christians so it was a mutual decision.
My husband was an athesist when we met and much older so it was a bit of an issue, but he stuck around...not an athesist anymore!
Yeah, our relationship did progress into further things than just kissing, but I'm not sure I know anyone who thinks anal is ok and I'm married...so not gonna happen....ever...thanks for the thought!
We've been married 10 years, so of course we do now, or we did before we had kids.......ha ha.....
It was hard, I had some guys not ask me out, or stop seeing me because of it, but oh well. I just laid it right out there....Not gonna happen.....
Some of us don't have sex while married either....
Kidding .... (a little)
I wasn't a Christian before I was married BUT I have only had sex with my husband. We were not married though when we started having sex. But I only wanted to have sex with one man my whole life.
I don't. Sex is not everything.
Casual sex is not for me. Have sex with everyone you ever date or even look at. I choose not to do so.
So what? It is not hurting you. I will never get an STD. You may.
Looks like you're the one with the problem
Hellfire! Nooo!
What's that song down home with a million verses?
I don't if it rains or freezes
long as I've got my plastic Jesus
riding on the dashboard of myyy car.
Help me Mary, this old romancer,
Watch for coppers while I pants her
I'll drink to you, girl, when I hit the bar.
Not only do I have sex, but with multiple partners, while on birth control, and i enjoy it haha. I was raised Catholic and I highly doubt that God will dictate your entry into Heaven by something as unimportant as sex.
I lost my virginity to my husband. That was the best feeling in the world, knowing that both of us were each other's first. Besides, I never really had the desire the hump everyone I liked or dated.
LOLZ wow.. some of these answers are a lil too extreme.I am a christian and as a teen lol omgosh it is very hard at times, but I just try not to even put my self in that situation.